A Man's Guide to Oral Sex

My darling Flowers.....I've been too under the weather to blog much, so a dear friend offered to do a guest post for me. He allowed me to pick the topic, so I picked one of my very very very favorite things. Oral! Woo hoo!!!!

I'll add a few comments here and there...

So without further adieu, "A Man's Guide to Oral Sex", by MJ.

Blondage asked me to put together a guest post for her on cunnilingus. I'm more than happy to do so. (Blondage says...thank you Darlin')

Believe it or not, there is an art form to cunnilingus. (Blondage says...absolutely true, and no two women like exactly the same things) It isn't nearly as confusing or difficult as it sometimes seems. There are a few basic things that a couple can do to make things work a lot better during this process.

I would say in my experience, one of the first ideals in a happy oral sex experience is that both parties are comfortable with their positioning. If a female is lying on her back on the bed, depending on the size of the bed, the male may be in a very uncomfortable position for quite some time, in that he might be lying on his stomach and craning his neck to get the right angle. If the female wants to be lying on her back, my advice to the males would be to put a pillow or pillows underneath her ass to raise up the target, as it were. You certainly do not want to strain your neck during this process, as the obvious goal is to give your partner a wonderful, mind-blowing orgasm. Your partner will appreciate the effort in the suggestion to do this, because it shows that you're committed to her pleasure and want to see her get off. The most important thing to achieve maximum results is to make sure both of you are in comfortable position for this type of cunnilingus. (Blondage says...very true. Even kick ass oral gets old if your back hurts or you're stretched in a weird position for too long.)

Get a feel for how she likes to be touched during the process. Again, this plays into the comfortability factor, because you'll want to touch her, insert a finger into her, play with her nipples, rub her ass, whatever comes to mind. Some women will play with themselves during this process, don't be intimidated by that. If a woman knows how her nipples like to be tweaked, let them go with it. Try your best to make this experience all about her and her orgasm. The rewards will be greater later, trust me. (Blondage says...the key to me is multi-tasking. *grin*)

There are different strokes for different folks in this process. Some women will want you to pull their lips open with your fingers, but remember gents, this isn't opening a beer can. Their genitals are as sensitive as ours are, so treat them gently. Some women strictly want their clits attacked, others like to be lapped, some will want you to put your tongue in the vagina and thrust like it's a cock, it just depends. And, it may vary from time to time. Be willing to adapt to what the situation is calling for. Change your methods from time to time as well, but never stray from what you know works. If gentle flicks of her clit after ten minutes of attention get her off every time, change the ten minute part, not the "Here comes the orgasm" part. (Blondage says...yes to all that. Don't just do the same thing over and over. Experiment. But if your girlie is getting close to cumming DO NOT stop what you are doing at that moment!!!)

Be aware of her body as well as what you are doing. If you feel her hips start to cock, or if she starts to grind a bit on your face, she may be getting close. (Blondage says...I'm so easy to figure out it's ridiculous. Grinding and screaming are dead give aways...*giggling*) If she instructs you to "go slower" or "lick that clit", do it! If you feel that she may be getting close and you know what might drive her over the edge, build up to it. Let her enjoy the buildup to the orgasm. Do not ever make her feel like you're rushing through it to get to the main event. (Blondage says...rushing ticks me off big time. Shortened time/blow job revenge is assured.)Make sure she understands through your actions that it’s about her, her body and her pleasure. One of the best parts of sex is the variety, and women crave it as much as we do. (Blondage says...variety. *purrrrrr* It's one of the reasons I love BDSM so much. So many options...*grin*) They want to get off just like we do, but they want excitement and something new just as badly as well.

Take time to make sure that she's really enjoying things. I do not mean to stop and actually ask them, most will let you know through their body movements or their words that things are going well. You can change the rhythm of your tongue if you want to see if she might react differently, but again, pay attention to what's happening. If she rises up her ass and you feel like she might want to be rimmed, go for it if that’s your thing. (Blondage giggles) Always remember though, it's ABOUT HER. You would never want her to rush through a blowjob, (Blondage says...and she WILL if you rush her!) so do not rush her through your attempt to get her off with your mouth.

I also wanted to talk about being ridden, where the male is on his back, and the female is on her knees, straddling his face and basically controlling the action. Make sure your nose is free so that you can take in air. You never want her to completely smother you, always make sure that you can get air. Let's face it, guys, sometimes she just wants to use your tongue as a sex toy. (Blondage says...HELL YES!!!!!) You may get away with simply sticking it out and letting her ride it, put it inside her, thrust on it, etc. On the other hand, this is a perfect time to take a little bit of control and really go to town. You can hook your arms through her legs, grab her ass with both hands, and pull her down on to your tongue for maximum penetration. (Blondage whimpers and squirms) I wouldn't stay that way for too long, but it does send the message that you absolutely mean business and love having your tongue inside her. It shows her that you really want her to get off and cum hard for you. Again, I caution this position when she gets near orgasm. My best advice is that if she tells you she's about to cum, make sure you can get air and clamp down on the clit. I don't mean bite it, of course, I mean to fix your lips on it and flick it with your tongue. This generally sends things right to the brink and will result in a wonderful orgasm. Let her scream and yell and enjoy the sensation, and keep working at it. If your girl is a swallower, you don't want her backing off right away; you want her to work it until you're finished, right? She wants the same thing, guys.

I won't get into 69 advice here, I might save that for another guest post if I'm asked. Suffice it to say, the male should be on the bottom, female on top, and off you go. (Blondage says...this is the only thing in the whole post that I have a different opinion on. I like 69 with the guy on top too!)

Hope everyone enjoyed this, I know I enjoyed writing it.

So....my darling Flowers....any tricks or advice you'd like to add? Girlies, anything you like that wasn't discussed? I am dying to talk about this subject.