Sex and the Single Girl VI

Very intriguing update from the Single Grrrrrrl today.

When Is Married "Married?"

I got an email from the husband half of a swinging couple. It's not the first time. There have been about 4 or 5 others. And most times, I send an email back explaining that married men are off limits. That I have to take the man's word for it that his wife is ok with things. Once, I asked to meet the husband and wife together and the husband came back with "my wife doesn't like to meet the people I'm going to fuck. I meet all of hers, but she refuses to meet mine." Uh-huh. No thank you. And once, I had a wife contact me and try to "give" me to her husband for an anniversary gift. I don't think so. I'm not some thing to be presented with a big red bow. I'm a person and I have standards and I choose not to be treated as some sort of property.

Anyway, I got an email from a husband. I sent back the email with a "no thank you, you're married" response. And his wife wrote me back. She was funny and gracious and very nice. Her response is the best email I've gotten on that site since I started there.

So me and the wife correspond for a while. She gives me both of their phone numbers and explains the way they feel about each other and about their swinging lifestyle. She says that she can find someone to play with quite easily (she swings both ways), but it's a bit more difficult for her husband. I understand that completely. It seems women are in great demand on that site.

I really like this woman. I love the way she's working so hard to hook up her husband. She sends me pictures. Sweet pictures of them together and him separately. So I agree to meet him for a beer. Friday, after work, I met him in this small bar. We hit it off immediately. Talking kids and lives, his wife and sex. The whole spectrum of topics. I spent 2 hours in the bar with him. It was a very nice meeting. And when I left, he walked me to my car and gave me a hug. Which is the first time any of the men I've met has done that.

I later sent an email to him thanking him for a nice evening and a part of the email was addressed to his wife also, asking if it was ok to call her and get her formal permission to play bedroom games with her husband. The whole situation is..........odd.

I got a 2 part email back. One half from the wife saying to call anytime and repeating her phone number, the other half of the email from the husband saying he enjoyed our meeting too and he thought I was sexy and fun and I needed to quit procrastinating and call his wife so that we could set something up. It was funny, the two of them.

I spoke to the wife for a long time. She's nice and funny and wonderfully sexy. We giggled like old girlfriends. But I think I kind of turned her on too because her husband sent me an email that said she woke him up at 2am for some middle-of-the-night games.

I'm at the point where I have tentatively set up a meet with the husband. And if things are going very well, maybe to bring the wife into the mix or even another man.

My boundaries are expanding farther than I've ever expected them to with this site. I have always been an inflexible person. Black and white on most issues. But sex seems to be one place where I am ok with a lot of gray. With fuzzy lines between what I used to consider right and wrong, good and bad. Which may or may not be a good thing. We shall see.